” Every couple is a world, ” they say, and there is indeed a lot of truth in that phrase. However, when we talk about a couple of problems, there are three that are so common that it amazes.
It is that although they are serious problems and that can even end the relationship, they are usually considered natural. That makes them stay and grow, to the point of generating deep conflicts in the couple.
It is likely that you have ever had one of them. If you have managed to solve them … Congratulations!
1. Frustration about sex
Having frustration around sex is one of the most frequent and, at the same time, most taboo problems. It is believed that sex should flow all the time naturally when in reality communication problems ruin it considerably.
Couples do not always have the same needs, nor do they like to have sex in the same hours, nor do they have the same expectations.
For this reason, often one of the parties to the couple feels unwanted, when perhaps the problem goes another way: for example, in knowing at what time the other person is more excited.
Solving this problem requires, then, only two things: assume it as necessary, and speak it. Achieving that, most of the time the problem is solved.
2. Issues with the political family
It does not matter how free a relationship is; As it becomes severe, it necessarily implies contact with the family of the other. They say that the family is not chosen, much less the political family is chosen. And the relationship with in-laws and in-laws may not always be the best.
This is very normal. Intrusive parents, demanding brothers, unresolved family problems that are charged. We all have our family circumstances, and that is often a reason for discussion in the couple.
The important thing, in this case, is also first, to talk about the issue in the couple. Let everyone know what matters in their family bother the other person.
And then, put healthy limits. For one side and another. Perhaps an overly intrusive mother should be marked when she crosses the line, but your partner must also understand that he is someone important to you and that you are not going to take her away from your life.
3. Technological interference
Today technology is part of our lives, and cell phones open the door to the world. But many times that tool becomes an anti-couple weapon.
How many times are you with your partner, sitting at the same table, without even speaking to each other for watching the phone? What do you see more: the eyes of your partner or the screen of your smartphone?
This lack of communication can lead to a strong distancing, but it is something so socially accepted that it is almost impossible to see it. But numerous studies have shown that the higher the incidence of the technology in the couple, the worse their relationships.
There’s a solution? Yeah sure. It is as simple as putting limits on the use of technology. The good idea is to turn off the phones one or two hours before going to sleep (which also helps to fall asleep and sleep more deeply) or avoid using smartphones at lunchtime.