It is not new that social networks have opened a new world and have transformed our way of relating. Now we have the possibility of contacting people from anywhere on the planet and meeting people with very different profiles with just one click. For this reason, finding a partner online has become increasingly frequent and prejudices about it are disappearing. However, when facing this search it is important to take into account some guidelines.
An essential preliminary step before finding a partner online, as well as in real life, is that you have good emotional stability as a base . That is, that you have taken the time to heal previous wounds and duels, that you have learned to be comfortable in solitude, that you know yourself and accept yourself. Having completed this process will assure you that you are not looking for a partner out of fear and lack, but out of a genuine desire to share your life with someone.
If you notice that you feel that having a partner is a necessity, if you turn to the company to avoid your sadness, your anguish or your dissatisfaction, it is likely that the bond you establish will not be the healthiest or happiest. Thus, ask yourself if your reasons for starting the search are the right ones and, if not, start by working on yourself.
Define what you want and what you can offer. As we have mentioned, being faced with so many options, it is important that we are clear about what we are looking for. What kind of relationship do we want to establish? What qualities does the person we would like to meet have? Try to be quite specific about it, don’t just focus on physical appearance and evaluate the values, concerns and lifestyle that your ideal partner should have.
However, this does not imply that you should strive for perfection, be extremely demanding and dismiss anyone who differs from your standards. However, there are some basic lines for each of us that must be met if we want to feel comfortable in the relationship, and these are the ones that should guide us at all times.
However, also be aware of who you are and what you are willing to contribute in a relationship; What are your strengths and weaknesses? This will help you define the degree of affinity with the people you meet.
The relative anonymity offered by the internet can lead us to show an image of ourselves that is not entirely real. We may be tempted to sell ourselves as more daring, adventurous, or romantic than we really are. In reality, this deception will only be temporary, and sooner or later the truth will come out. Therefore, it is preferable to be honest from the beginning.
Pay attention to the signs. The beginnings of a relationship are always exciting; and this initial illusion can lead us to forget what is important: knowing the other to know if there can be an affinity between the two. During these first interactions, we have to analyze the manners, thoughts and behavior of the other and not miss the possible red flags that may appear.
Give time to the time. One of the most common mistakes people make when finding a partner online is rushing too fast, revealing themselves too soon, or reaching too high a level of intimacy in just a few conversations. This can lead to disagreements and later frustrations; therefore, it is important not to burn stages and advance step by step. Always keep in mind that virtual interaction can never replace the real world .
Finally, keep in mind that you cannot be sure of the success of a relationship until the face-to-face meeting takes place. It is possible that the chemistry and complicity that apparently existed vanishes on a physical first date, or that part of what the other had told you is not true; therefore, proceed with caution.
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